How do you have the confidence to start talking to someone in fact? The question "Jimmy" is a question that has always been asked by many "I'm timid," "I do not know what to say," "I am afraid to be rejected by others" "I fear that others will ignore me, that no one cares about me" The first thing I would like to say to you is "Jimmy" If you are shy If you find it difficult to go towards others Do not try to hide it necessarily Do not try to deny it or get rid of it Go to that person and say: Do you know, I am a shy person, It was not easy for me to take this step to urge you But I was looking at you, or listening to you, or I was reading to you I wanted to tell you something, To say I'm attracted to you or that your eyes are beautiful Or I want your invitation to drink coffee Or I want you to sign my book
Whatever you want to say, Use your weakness, use it as part of you For many people, this seems to be a favorite, To see someone overcome some shame Or overcome a handicap, For you this is a hindrance I know this because I personally have a lie, As you will probably notice But for me it seemed more obvious than now For a long time I was trying to hide for myself I used to take it as a hindrance So I learned from one of my professors, Which he also had a laugh, His accent was Spanish It is something you can use For example, I can say: I do not really understand what you're saying It was also a way for people to ask me: What country are you from? In fact, I did not have to say anything Because they were asking me a question that I could then answer So, you are also a puzzle for others Not only are they considered a mystery for you When you feel ashamed you think you are the only one who has nothing to say But in fact, others do the same Just go to them and ask a question For example, if you are in a museum, talk about existing paintings If you are in a club, talk about music If you are in a cafe, talk about eating, coffee and service There is a context, and you can draw inspiration from this context This is something that others share at the same time If you are in the metro, you can talk about everyday life The train, traffic or weather conditions I think there are lots of interesting things to talk about Non-weather and sports Which I think everyone is talking about in the elevator! No one talks because everybody is busy with his mobile phone He talks to someone else through him I think we have lost the practice of "short talks" Short talks were ways to create social ties A kind of awareness of the presence of other people around us Do not think you're the only person who does not know how to start talking to others And that all people find it easy and can speak fluently They always find the right thing to say It is not, really I think many of us have already started losing the ability to simply communicate with others face to face, In our physical presence Switch to digital version to connect Which many of us grow up with today My suggestion for you "Jimmy" is Use these places for training You may not meet the same people again Whether you are in the elevator In the cafe Or in the supermarket in the street In the metro Whatever the situation I was in the club You sit in the queue somewhere Use these positions to train To talk to the person behind you in the queue To ask about the offer you would like to attend To think about it, I have a context, and someone I met in this context How can I link points? Between me and other people and the context in which we are The environment in which we are located If you link these points You will find it very easy to start conversations with others I wish in the end that I have given you some ideas About how to approach other people How to talk to them Or maybe sometimes just smiling at them You do not need to say anything You just say with your smile "I noticed you" Then wait for the other to smile at you And so she has already begun to talk Or at least communicate even if you do not use words
